Attaching 🖇

Letting go of attachment to a static vision of success

Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly. I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be. This is the interrelated structure of reality.

Martin Luther King Jr

At this point in the year, you’ve already set your goals, objectives, OKRs, etc. 

And, as we near the end of January you might be having a moment of, “Agh! I’m already so off-track”. Or, maybe it’s, “F yes! I am DOING. THE. THING.”.

Recalibrate… celebrate… do what you need to do to keep moving forward…

But, no matter where you are today: watch that grip you’ve got on those goals

Lately, I’m noticing a pattern among the self-aware leaders in my orbit. We’re noticing how we love the feeling of being laser-focused for extended stretches of time — we’re proud of it! Eat that, pandemic procrastination monster!

It’s so tempting to get attached to the goals we’ve got on paper. We’re doing a little dance as we’re crossing things off of our list… we’re having these inspiring insights around what should come next… and it feels gooooood

And sometimes we reach a point where we start to feel this subtle sense that we’re missing something. Yes, we’re making progress. But something is fuzzy, unclear. The destination we set into our goal-GPS on Jan 1 doesn’t feel quite 100% accurate anymore. But our head is all like, “Keep going! Don’t lose focus!”.

Chiiiiill, head.

Goals have their place. But remember: Our bodies are like satellite dishes for our purpose-GPS. 

So take a moment to check in. What is your body telling you?

Here’s where we can allow the whole body-mind intelligence to speak up. Because we tend to have an intuitive sense when — if we don’t balance some of that laser energy with zoomed-out energy — we’ll be missing the mark of the impact we’re after.

Yang/yin. Masculine/feminine. We want to tap into all of it. Otherwise, what are we working so hard for?

My very simple recommendation:

Set a reminder to re-center yourself in the big-picture impact you’re here for.

Remember that our purpose is constantly evolving and being revealed as we take steps in integrity with who we are. 

Don’t let the prettiness of your Monica-Geller-caliber goals document lead you to ignore valuable new information.

As imperceptible as it may be, even the North Star is continuously in motion.

 


Somatic practice

Re-center your whole body-mind in your purpose in a matter of minutes.

  1. Arrive. Close the eyes and take several of the longest, most luxurious breaths you’ve taken all day. Deep into your lower belly.

  2. Speak your care — out loud, slowly, three times. What is it that motivates you do show up to your purpose? (For example, “I am here to…be/create/connect…”) 

  3. Notice how your care feels in the body. Where do you feel it most? What does it feel like? Get descriptive. Does it move?

Practices like these help us refine our sense of when we’re on track — in integrity — and when it’s time to adjust.

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