Letting go of attachment to a static vision of success
Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly. I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be. This is the interrelated structure of reality.
At this point in the year, youāve already set your goals, objectives, OKRs, etc.Ā
And, as we near the end of January you might be having a moment of, āAgh! Iām already so off-trackā. Or, maybe itās, āF yes! I am DOING. THE. THING.ā.
Recalibrate⦠celebrate⦠do what you need to do to keep moving forwardā¦
But, no matter where you are today:Ā watch that grip youāve got on those goals.Ā
Lately, Iām noticing a pattern among the self-aware leaders in my orbit. Weāre noticing how we love the feeling of being laser-focused for extended stretches of time ā weāre proud of it! Eat that, pandemic procrastination monster!
Itās so tempting to get attached to the goals weāve got on paper. Weāre doing a little dance as weāre crossing things off of our list⦠weāre having these inspiring insights around what should come next⦠and it feelsĀ gooooood.Ā
And sometimes we reach a point where we start to feel this subtle sense that weāre missing something. Yes, weāre making progress. But something is fuzzy, unclear. The destination we set into our goal-GPS on Jan 1 doesnāt feel quite 100% accurate anymore. But our head is all like, āKeep going! Donāt lose focus!ā.
Chiiiiill, head.
Goals have their place. But remember: Our bodies are like satellite dishes for our purpose-GPS.Ā
So take a moment to check in. What is your body telling you?
Hereās where we can allow the whole body-mind intelligence to speak up. Because we tend to have an intuitive sense when ā if we donāt balance some of that laser energy with zoomed-out energy ā weāll be missing the mark of the impact weāre after.
Yang/yin. Masculine/feminine. We want to tap into all of it. Otherwise, what are we working so hard for?
My very simple recommendation:
Set a reminder to re-center yourself in the big-picture impact youāre here for.
Remember that our purpose is constantly evolving and being revealed as we take steps in integrity with who we are.Ā
Donāt let the prettiness of your Monica-Geller-caliber goals document lead you to ignore valuable new information.
As imperceptible as it may be, even the North Star is continuously in motion.

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Somatic practice
Re-center your whole body-mind in your purpose in a matter of minutes.
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Arrive. Close the eyes and take several of the longest, most luxurious breaths youāve taken all day. Deep into your lower belly.
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Speak your care ā out loud, slowly, three times. What is it that motivates you do show up to your purpose? (For example, āI am here toā¦be/create/connectā¦ā)Ā
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Notice how your care feels in the body. Where do you feel it most? What does it feel like? Get descriptive. Does it move?
Practices like these help us refine our sense of when weāre on track ā in integrity ā and when itās time to adjust.